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Paradigm shift inspiring and worthy of penetrating silence. I am better for dedicating my quiet time to actively listen! Thank you so very much from the bottom of my married heart!

This was deeply comforting to me. I really benefitted from hearing so many people talk about how they are okay after a divorce. I found this full of love for life.

This podcast is so honest and reflective and moving. I loved it and have already recommended it to many people. Fantastic work!

Good insights all around. Thanks for taking the time to deep dive the relationships in the family. Divorce isn’t failure, it’s a learning curve. Sharing & listening helps all.

I could listen to entire season just of his grandmother! Loved her. Loving this podcast. So real. So honest. So refreshing.

I stumbled upon the podcast at a time when I needed it most. In a season of contemplating the sustainability of my own relationship, the interviews provoked thought that caused me to examine my own life and some of the generational curses that my family continues to be plagued with. It sparked curiosity about how Ian plans to be intentional about navigating marriage and relationship and about what he could possibly explore next on the subject. My only complaint is that there weren’t more episodes. I look forward to a follow up season.

Very interesting content. Ian Cross does a great job as a host and narrator. I wasn’t too into the music part, but still enjoyed this podcast!

I thoroughly enjoyed listening to this exploration of marriage and divorce. The editing impressively wove the stories of each episode together, which were also beautifully enhanced with music

The outro music is way too long. He seems like he’s expecting to divorce. She sounds like an immature kid saying ’like’ every other word. Kind of dull but good try

This podcast explores one family’s experience with marriage and divorce. It looks at multiple generations within a family and explores why people marry and what ultimately led them to divorce. Very well done - writing, music, mixing. Well worth a listen.

I’m enjoying your honest writing and catchy tunes!

As an audio producer, this made my heart sing. As a child of divorce, this made my heart ache. As a newlywed, this strangely gave my heart comfort. Ian really delivers in this thoughtful, well-crafted beautifully scored narrative show. Worth every minute of your time.

I “like” the show, topic and content, but PLEASE stop saying “like” every other word (Ian’s wife).

Wow, this might be one of the most impactful things I’ve ever spent time listening to. I will likely listen a second time. So appreciate you exploring marriage and the different narratives and struggles within. I would enjoy continued discussions with your family or on similar topics. Enjoyable storytelling and lots of wisdom here.

I listen to a lot of podcasts and this one really stood out to me. This show is tender and simple. Decidedly absent are the frills and fancy production of many other shows, which my ears appreciated a great deal. I think we need more heartfelt shows like this.

I’d love to hear more interviews with your grandmother. Sounds like she has lived a fascinating life.

I perhaps had unrealistic expectations of this narrative. The first two episodes made me hopeful for deep questioning and perhaps less tepid realizations. That may not be the fault of the program / maybe I asked too much of it. I found some the conclusions a little self congratulatory. Would love the hear 5 episodes following his grandmother’s story in far greater detail.

Thank you for this masterpiece, it was done so well. A lot of lessons for anyone, no mates family background or marital status.

I have loved listening to the stories and songs in this podcast. I come from a family where people stay married regardless of the circumstances. I was married for a time in my 20s and got divorced over, among many things, $5 worth of gas. I will take these stories and the insights provided by the author/creator with me for a long time.

I am hooked. I can’t wait for the next story and have so many members of my family coming to mind. Thanks for this.

Ran across this on the Apple podcast app and this episode was listed as best of the year. Listening to some guy talk to his dysfunctional parents? Was waiting for the interesting part which never happens.

4 stars for the first couple of episodes. I like the idea of the podcast but when the wife intrudes I can’t understand her and she takes the topic off course.

Ian (with help from Kelsey) are able to explore and present the topic of marriage and life long partnerships with honesty, clarity, respect, humor and introspection. Thank you both- and thank you to your amazing family!

What a cool analysis of marriage disguised as a family memoir (or is it the other way around?) I love the narrator’s thoughtful and honest voice. Society creates many lies around marriage and love, and his work finds the voices of actual human beings. This is a really beautiful work of art.

Thoughtful. Nuanced. But definitely made by someone who hasn’t been married long and who generally looks on the bright side. It was nice to listen to podcast that doesn’t see divorce as a failure. It’s just where some people end up. The most refreshing episode is the last one. Strange that there no credits - unless Ian made this with no one else’s help?

This has me all in my emotions!! Thanks to you and your family for sharing ❤️

I skipped past this one too many times. In fact I didn’t decide to listen until the first episode showed up on Apples best single episodes of the year list. Then I listened to the remaining episodes immediately. This really is a beautifully done podcast. I found Ian Coss’s grandmothers story especially interesting about divorcing during a time when divorce was much less common. My only suggestion would be get better cover art for this podcast. The words and music are perfect. The cover design is one of the reasons I kept skipping past this podcast. Quite bland. And didn’t intrigue me. At any rate whether you are single, married or divorced or the grown children of such some piece or many pieces of Ian Coss’ family study will speak to you. And credit to Ian’s wife for being able to process a complicated subject with her husband in such a public manner. No easy task.

Nice someone did a “family study” about this. Introspective, and helpful to people who have been affected by divorce act some point in time. My mom always taught us that relationships are a challenge. That’s why i admire everyone who is able to be in them.

The intimate details of people’s lives are always intriguing and the more honest they are the more they invite us to evaluate our own. I didn’t find myself critical of my own flaws but rather found that I was not so alone in them.

I literally just stumbled across this podcast. I love it so much! I think it’s the history and hearing about how people grew up, it’s just all really moving. I feel particularly touched by the grandmother. I feel a connection to her. The way she talks was just like my great gma who passed away at 103 this past year. Her independence and strong willed behavior was something beautiful from the older generation. Give her love from this podcast listener!

Your synopsis or comments at the end of episode two were particularly moving to me. You’ve put into words exactly what I’ve felt. Feelings that I couldn’t pin down until I heard your words, “By committing to Kelsey I was really committing to a version of myself…” and “there are now boundaries to the potential lives I can lead.” Mind blown. Thank you!!

This was so polished and absorbing. As someone in your aunts’ and uncles’ generation (they are such marvelous people, too), I wonder at the void in every discussion regarding children. Was the divorce traumatic for the kids? Your father hints at this. Your radical — and traumatized —grandmother could be the poster child for this subject. There are studies that trauma is passed inter-generationally. Her distancing herself from traditional marriage led to expressed resentment, and her experience of wartime Germany and the Holocaust had to leave their mark on her sons. I’ve been married 25 years and right now I’m still “making that choice”, but no doubt prior generations had their impact on this choice. Thanks for making this. Maybe marriage is on the way out.

This was a podcast I had been skipping over bc it’s not my typical genre, but I’m so glad I decided to finally give it a listen. It’s so grounding. Good job 👍

I’m giving this 4 stars based on my first listen. There’s some awesome story telling, however… Just listening to this opening episode, I’m noticing some glossing over of what could be abusive events. I don’t think it’s fair to say your mother is “embellishing” and “being dramatic” when your dad is purposefully being vague and often seems cagey when it comes to remembering certain events very specifically. Your dad seemed to “forget” or “recall less” in times when he became aggressive. Convenient, eh? This definitely falls into a typical victim/abuser narrative. It’s my opinion that, if you’re going to discuss these types of scenarios, it’s important to not feed into stereotypes and create some discussion around inherently toxic or abusive behaviors. (As opposed to normalizing them or referring to the account of a potential victim as “being dramatic.”) The fact that your mother had to file a restraining order against your father and that he was controlling about who she could or couldn’t date following the divorce are huge red flags, my friend. Maybe you touch on this in later episodes, but I was really taken aback to hear those accounts, then you immediately following with calling your mother dramatic.

Oh dear, your wife missed the boat entirely. She had PTSD, her mother wanted her safe with someone that could support her and keep her safe. She needed therapy. Can you imagine what she saw? Women who don’t want to be mothers are not likeable, I know… I don’t like them either. Her mistake was in not following her own wants initially. Painfully honest view of marriage.

Randomly came across this podcast and so far, I am loving it. Truly made me reflect on my own life, the way I grew up watching my parents and their behaviors. I always question marriage and wonder if relationships are doomed to fail because I’ve also seen a lot of divorced couples in my family. I love how this is bringing awareness to our own toxic behaviors and makes you reflect on patterns you probably should not be copying from experiences you’ve seen in your own upbringing. It’s always good to be aware and conscious of these things. We are only trying to be better. I love how you kept it vulnerable and real. Thank you for this.

Love the songs at the end of each episode. But the storytelling is beautiful. More relatable then you know! Very impactful. Thank you!

Thought this was great to peel back the curtain of very closed loved ones’ stories - the ones we think we know…and the ones that are accurate.

Very thought provoking about the impact that marriage in your family impact your view of them. I have only had 1 divorce in my family, but that doesn’t mean all marriages were happy. Interesting perspective. Very well produced as well

I am enjoying it so far. The wife’s insertions are unnecessary and kind of annoying. Maybe it’s her voice, she’s hard to listen to. Also, I’m fascinated how much Ian is fascinated by this almost like he’s questioning his marriage.

This podcast is fantastic, yet sad. I have never realized how important the solid marriages of my parents, in-laws, and aunts and uncles have been to my own (currently 15 year) marriage. Excellent interviews of the host’s family members, which cannot be easy at all. Very well done.

Amazing reflections on the gifts that accompany a relationships dissolve as well

While this is not the most polished podcast, it is vulnerable and honest. The host and his family are very reflective and open about relationships in an endearing way. The episodes are almost too short, as I’d love to hear more of the conversations. It’s a good conversation starter and prompt to think about relationships, especially for my fiancé and I as we are getting ready to marry with some very similar family dynamics to those explored here.

It made me really think of my past marriage , the divorce and my current partner . I love Aunt Rari.

My parents have an unhappy and unhealthy marriage of 43 years: it’s something my brother and I, and all extended family members don’t understand. How/why do they stay together ? I’ve loved these stories so much and find meaning and space for thinking in each episode. I love the host and his wife’s insights. Thanks guys

I learned a lot from this podcast and wish I could’ve heard this 40 years ago. It was insightful and would want my kids to listen to this. Makes you look at things much differently and I recommend this to everyone

I listen to Family Ghost, and Ian’s first episode was played on that podcast along with an interview or conversation about his undertaking. I just loved that first episode, and the conversation was totally engrossing and enlightening. So, now I have to listen to the whole enchilada! If the next episodes are just half as good as the first one… we’ll, each one will make my day!!! Can’t wait to play them.

Accidentally found it. So glad I did. Great show!!

I really enjoyed these stories. It was put together very well. The music was an added bonus. Good luck with your music and marriage. I have faith that both will go well for you.