The queer, authentic, decolonizing, mental/ emotional-health content I’ve always wanted. Jessamyn has been a fitness/ spiritual guide for me for much of my twents, through many body changes and queer relationships/ situationships, and now that I'm in my thirts, I am so thankful that Jessamyn and ashe are sharing so much of their perspectives and journeys with the internet. This show really helped me realize that I want to be more intentional about building my own queer community, and it is incredibly affirming and validating to hear that the things I’ve struggled with and thought about are normal and okay. I am astounded by the vulnerability, appreciate the openness, and respect all that they have shared and are willing to share.

Overall a fun podcast. Such nice chemistry between Jessamyn & ashe! The Q&A format is great too. I have a comment about the narcissism episode - I came out of a 2.5 year emotionally & psychologically abusive relationship with a covert narcissist several years ago. It was a horrific break up and catapulted me into learning A LOT about pathological narcissism. It’s true that everyone has a certain amount of undigested narcissism from developmental periods that may have gone sideways (the Diamond Approach teachings have a lot to say on this that I’ve found super useful). This run of the mill, everyday narcissism is NOT the same as people who suffer from pathological narcissism or NPD. As someone who’s recovered from this kind of abuse, I think telling someone to just move on and stop assessing future partners for narcissistic traits is bad advice at best and potentially dangerous at worst. From my own experience & everything that I’ve learned, folks who end up in toxic relationships with narcissists tend to be predisposed to relationships (romantic and platonic) where their inner light/naïveté/willingness to see the best in others is exploited on behalf of the narcissists extremely selfish interests. I think that a super, super important part of recovery from narcissistic abuse is identifying the traits that are endemic to narcissistic behavior and learning to identify those traits in future potential partners and/or friends. If you don’t take the time to think through your experience and start applying it to other people, you are more likely to end up in a similar situation. The relationship I had with my covert narcissist has turned out to be one of the most important relationships of my life, because it forced me to see how I’d been allowing others to violate my boundaries for my entire life. Not only was I allowing boundary violations, I was inviting them by refusing to prioritize my own basic needs (care, respect, safe connection). My experience with this narcissist led me to reevaluate EVERY relationship in my entire life and to permanently change my criteria moving forward. I really think that learning to apply this information to future relationships is so important for growth and healing. Encouraging victims of narcissistic abuse to move on prematurely runs the risk of disconnecting them from the new knowing that processing that abuse could make possible. It was YEARS after the relationship ended before even some of my closest friends and family fully believed me and my story about what had happened, because my partner was so good at keeping big parts of the abuse private. The last thing I would ever want a narcissistic abuse survivor to hear is that they should refrain from applying their experience to future situations. For me, my ability to suss out and evade narcissists/energy vampires is a true gift that I wouldn’t trade, even though it was gained through the worst pain and psychological torture of my life. Thank you for listening <3

As a queer nurse practitioner who happens to work at Planned Parenthood in NC(I also used to work at the Durham County Health Department in the family planning clinic and primary care at the Durham County Jail. All that to sat, I loved this week’s episode of your podcast. You gave very similar advice I give to my patients, especially how you framed consent. I think communication during sex is super sexy, especially when a partner is asking for consent. I find that folx just need to practice doing that. Also, it is helpful to normalize knowing STI status so folx will get at least annual testing if they are not in a monogamous relationship. You made me sooo happy listening to all this week’s advice! I’m a long time listener and long time fan of y’all’s body positivity and your advocacy with weed. I’m super passionate about changing stigmas and laws so we can take the shame away from those who find they have addiction problems. I personally am an alcoholic as well as self- identified lesbian (gold 🌟 star) so I know understand the internalized shame and also know the reality of the medical community’s ignorance to addiction. Again, all that to say, I appreciate y’all! You don’t need my permission but keep doing you boo! 😉🤣🌈🙌🏼💕🌟 I feel like we’re all fighting the great resistance against racism and patriarchy right now! So carry on my friends… Jen Brevity and typos courtesy of my iPhone

Love Ashe and Jessamyn and the way they let us see both the good and the bad of their life. I often feel so seen and understood when listening to them.

This show is not what you might be expecting. It is more and beyond. When I listen to it I have a very similar experience as I do when listening to the early long form seasons of Where Shall We Begin with Esther Perel, the relationship therapist. Each episode is a journey, my alliances shift, and I feel broken down and reconstructed. If one is open to go deep with Jessamyn and Ash and learn by their example I think our intimate partnerships would, English-speaking-world-wide, deepen and strengthen. I’m a bit older than Jessamyn, enough that it’s noticeable only in a few references, and I see so many continuities in her preferences and path. A shared Neptune sign perhaps, among us. Anyway, give it a try.

I’m a queer with a dog in Richmond, VA, and really appreciated the shoutout to my city in the most recent episode - Where’s a Queer Supposed to Live?

I found this podcast because I found Jessamyn via yoga things years ago. I did not think I’d find this podcast relatable but I was so wrong. I’ve learned so much & thought about so many things from a different perspective because of this show! I also find Jessamyn & Ash to have super soothing voices Especially Ash, your voice is so calming! I hope you keep doing the podcast, as long as it feels right for both of you. I love it!

Really grateful for the consistency of authenticity from y’all

Am beyond grateful for conversations that encourage and shed light on being imperfect. Also, the authentic quality of the conversations between Jessamyn and Ash are courageously encouraging. Peacefully, Dame PGP:WE

I’m so grateful to have found this podcast. Not only do I love the dynamic between Ashe and Jessamyn, but Ive learned so much about myself and my relationships though their conversations. Listening to how they each share their truths and how the other holds space is akin to a beautiful dance. Each episode gets better and better. When I listen, I’m entertained, deeply reflective, and laughing all at the same time. Such a gem.

Let me just say. I love y’all for a multitude of reasons. Your voices are so soothing and listening to your podcast just eases my mind.

Welcome to the concourse of souls. I laugh, I nod, I snap. I resonate with my whole being. Bearing witness to Ash and Jessamyn, holding their musings of sage hilarity is an honour and delight. I love being in this time with them. A tribute to Blackness, queer thriving, dynamic and ease-y practice, trauma healing, accountability to our justice now cleaning up from our white ancestors, how to be in relationship with ourselves and those we love in action. This podcast is like swimming in the clearest water: simple and simultaneously miraculous.

Loving these conversations so much.

This is a wonderful podcast. Very grateful for it. Will tell my friends !

Lovely representation, openness, realness, and joy! As a 26yo pansexual who is still finding herself, which involves undoing and rebuilding a lot of thinking patterns, it’s nice to know that many people are also doing the same, and approaching the experience with acceptance, willingness, and excitement. ❤️⭐️🥳

I love listening to Jessamyn and Ashe. Hearing them communicate is such a great example and helps me be more thoughtful in how I want to show up in my relationships.

I feel seen by these two, and can always rely on their episodes to give me a much needed laugh

I love the queerness, I love the weed smokin’, I love the humor, I love the polyamorous realness, I love how they relate back to astrology, I love it all!

It makes me laugh and it makes me think. There’s a lot of fun happening, but there’s serious conversation too.

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I love the vibe, the conversations and the information. Also I am 100% here for y’all doing an astrology spin off. Do it!!! ❤️

Love love this podcast. Jessamyn and her partner are so real, super funny and have very helpful advice. Cant wait for more episodes!

My friend suggested this podcast to me, and I was hooked from the beginning. Hilarious, informational and so so relatable. 👏🏻

Jessamyn! This is a brilliant, hot mess of a genius show. You called that child a “service bottom!”😂 You may have to take her to dinner of Hawaii after that one. You are so achingly wise and honest. You may find that you need to do this solo. Your voice is colossal, you don’t need a sidekick. Keep up the incredible work and occupying defiant spaces. Asé! 🥰

I don’t ever write reviews on podcasts, but WOW! I adore this. These two are honest, blunt, and so relatable. I’m so excited for more content.

I love Jessamyn’s stories and posts on Instagram but in the podcast format the discussion was . . . Unfocused. Way too rambling if you’re not listening while high.

I have been waiting for this! Fabulous and found myself laughing out loud in my office! Thankfully I'm wearing ear pods .. I need more than 10 minutes! Please! :(

Y’all had me laughing, great to hear your voices. I think a lot of folks want to hear about navigating poly conversations, I know I do. Can’t wait to hear more

I’ve been waiting on the edge of my seat for this episode and it did not disappoint! I am so excited for more!

I already know this is gonna be awesome!! Love your blunt truth and no F's given attitude. Because of you I have this new found fierceness and confidence. I have been a mom and wife for so long I forgot who I was. I stumbled upon your yoga videos and I have this new found love for it. Thank you from a lady who is remembering who she once was. Much love